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Explanation on my recent "rare" appearances

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jazzsam

JerseyWendy said:
An update:
I hadn't talked to anyone in Germany in a week, meaning nobody bothered calling me. I did try and call - nobody picked up.

Today I got a hold of my oldest sister.

My mother is the same. There's no change.

I am extremely frustrated and saddened that my family doesn't find it necessary to keep me up to date on my mother's condition. They have phones just like I do, is it really that difficult to pick up that receiver and dial? If they don't want to do that, why not email me? GRRRR.

Sorry about the rant. :(

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Wendy
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I know exactly what you mean. I can't stand it when someone does not feel like telling you about something important. If it is small and stupid then oh well.... But if it is important PICK UP THE PHONE and CALL! I agree.
 
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anabolic_1

Wendy, My mom and dad are from Austria, they were vacationing there two years ago and while walking thru the park my dad had a stoke. He was in the hospital for a month, they would not let him fly home unless they put in a pace maker, which he was not happy about. long distant stuff is never easy. I will keep you in my thoughts.
Mike.
 
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JerseyWendy

anabolic_1 said:
Wendy, My mom and dad are from Austria, they were vacationing there two years ago and while walking thru the park my dad had a stoke. He was in the hospital for a month, they would not let him fly home unless they put in a pace maker, which he was not happy about. long distant stuff is never easy. I will keep you in my thoughts.
Mike.
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Thank you, Mike. :)

I have an update on my mom, too. Her insurance is kicking her out of the hospital, but has agreed to pay for rehabilitation. Right now she's scheduled to go to a rehab clinic on Tuesday. I don't know for how long.

It appears I ticked off the only sister that was keeping me up-to-date. She found out that it was me who called my uncle (my mom's brother) to inform him that my mother was hospitalized. Since my sister doesn't see eye to eye with anybody, she feels betrayed by me and sent me an e-mail this morning, telling me she is done giving me any updates. I can't repeat the other thing(s) she said. :'(

I'm ready to scream at this point.

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Wendy
 
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jazzsam

JerseyWendy said:
anabolic_1 said:
Wendy, My mom and dad are from Austria, they were vacationing there two years ago and while walking thru the park my dad had a stoke. He was in the hospital for a month, they would not let him fly home unless they put in a pace maker, which he was not happy about. long distant stuff is never easy. I will keep you in my thoughts.
Mike.
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Thank you, Mike. :)

I have an update on my mom, too. Her insurance is kicking her out of the hospital, but has agreed to pay for rehabilitation. Right now she's scheduled to go to a rehab clinic on Tuesday. I don't know for how long.

It appears I ticked off the only sister that was keeping me up-to-date. She found out that it was me who called my uncle (my mom's brother) to inform him that my mother was hospitalized. Since my sister doesn't see eye to eye with anybody, she feels betrayed by me and sent me an e-mail this morning, telling me she is done giving me any updates. I can't repeat the other thing(s) she said. :'(

I'm ready to scream at this point.

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Wendy
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Wow, family drama. Everyone has it just a different version of it!
 
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JerseyWendy

Turn for the worse

My mom had been in rehab until yesterday, and was scheduled to go home tomorrow. I talked to her on the phone last Monday. It was her 83rd birthday, and even though she was under tons of pain medication, she sounded ok.

Last night she was having extreme difficulties breathing, and they discovered large amounts of liquids in her lungs. She was transported to a nearby hospital. On route to the hospital her heart was beating irregularly. My mom is currently in ICU, in an induced coma, on life support. Her kidneys are failing along with her heart. She was diagnosed with severe pneumonia. The only hope that currently remains, is that some of the antibiotics will work. If taken off life support, my mom will die. :'(

Please keep her in your prayers.

A very sad
Wendy
 
Phyl

Phyl

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Oh Wendy. I can't imagine being so far from her right now. You must be a mess. Your mom is in my thoughts and prayers and I hope that the meds kick in fast.
 
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JerseyWendy

Thank you very, very much, Tom and Phyl.

Phyl, being so far away right now is tremendously painful. I feel helpless and overwhelmed with the information I received.

I thank God for having Alex here with me and my boys. Right now and I am "comfortable" (<-- for lack of a better word) grieving here with my husband and sons. I can let all my emotions out in front of them, and they understand completely. If I were to hop on the next plane to Germany, I'd enter a different world, unfortunately. I can't take the entire family along for too many reasons to list, and I am too much of a coward to take that much dreaded trip by myself - for now at least.

Thank you so much for your continued prayers and support. It is very much appreciated.

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Wendy
 
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debfife

I went through something similar with my Mom a few years ago shortly after her 56th birthday, except she had a living will so there was no life support. I can feel exactly what you are feeling just from reading your post. I know how difficult it is for you. I think when you say comfortable you mean numb... completely numb. That's the only way to describe it.

You, your Mom and your family are in my thoughts. If there's anything we can do just say so.
 
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JerseyWendy

I'm sorry for not updating, but it's been an emotional roller coaster ride, and it has heavily taken a toll on me.

Until last week Friday my mom was in ICU, often times touch and go. Each time my phone rang I'd get a panic attack, because even though I thought I was prepared for the worst news ever - nobody can really, truly prepare for something like this.

While in ICU my mom fell out of bed! Don't ask me how it's even possible because I honestly don't know, all I know is that she fell down face first. When my sister visited the following day she noticed heavy bruising on her face, arms and side. When questioning the head nurse, she finally fessed up. They claim to have taken x-rays after the fall, but that nothing was broken. Well, it still remains to be seen what the fall did to her already fractured vertebrates.

Friday I was notified my mom would be taken out of ICU and placed in a regular room, and my sisters and I all thought they were shuffing my mom off to die. Oh, my mom had had 4 kidney dialysis while in ICU as well.

Saturday I got a call from my brother-in-law, telling me he had visited my mother and his news were completely stunning - to say the least. Remember, Saturday was the first day my mom was in a regular room. He entered the room, and she greeted him with a smile. :eek: He said he spent 2 hours with her, talked, watched her eat (by herself), and was totally dumb-founded, as he was NOT expecting her in that state of mind. Only the previous day my sister visited, and my mom was nothing like that, in fact, she was mentally pretty gone according to her. My brother-in-laws exact words were: "She seemed to have risen from the dead."

We also learned that it appeared that my mom had contracted the Hantavirus WHILE in ICU!!!!!

My sister had already written a long letter to the insurance company due to the fall, begging them to allow for a transfer, so now, with the Hantavirus coming to light, we are all hopeful that a transfer will be imminent, and that the hospital will have a lot of answering to do very shortly.

In the meantime I had a Power of Attorney done (in NY City), and my sister already has it. Still, I feel pretty worn out with all of this - an emotional wreck would be a pretty close definition of my current state of mind.

I'm taking it a day at a time - and phone calls still scare me immensely. Tomorrow my oldest son is graduating High School, and I don't know if I'm looking forward to it or dreading it.

Someone had said that my feelings could be described as "numb", and yes, that is very true. But I feel I've numbed up completely, and the only emotions I'm letting out are the sad ones. :(

Thank you all for your continued support.

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Wendy
 
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